Once you’re in your twenties is when… you start realizing you’re no longer a kid, not even close- you learn how to deal with all sorts of people, all sorts of situations. You realize you need to prioritize. You realize you need to make decisions now, you’re no longer following anybody else. You learn things about yourself that you might even hate… but you’ll just eventually learn to forgive yourself. You learn to forgive others too, slowly.
You’re in the most confused state. You try to understand how to even behave with people. You start to realize people have certain expectations. It gets pretty scary. This is the period of your life where you question all your thoughts a million times- ask yourself the same damn thing, play a single thought over and over again, you’re not personally satisfied with anything- you’re afraid of disappointing people now that you’ve finally gotten them to listen to you. Nobody gets you, nobody tries to get you either. You’re freaking frustrated.
Relationships become a huge cloud- you don’t understand what is going on with anyone, you don’t know who is your friend and who isn’t. And then… you start letting go of all the blocks that stood in your way all this time… eventually or they just fade away themselves because that was the time period meant for them… “Start your twenties with a lot of friends and leave with a few good ones. What happened? People faded away into their careers and relationships. Fights were had and never resolved. Shit happens.” Truly, Mr. O’Connell.
Of course there is a whole lot of good factors upon hitting the twenties. We get a sense of freedom within ourselves, we start to accept that this is who we are and start to understand our strengths and weaknesses to the greatest extent- school taught us all the other things anyway (I’m not talking about just pure academics here). We’re mostly past all the “phases” and are finally our “real self”. We’re no longer so much told what to do all the time. And as always, sometimes being an “adult” has its advantages. You know what I’m talking about. No, not that you become legal to drink, drive. But that you’re suddenly given a whole lot of importance, people actually start to take your word for things and for people who’ve always tried to show they’re responsible- finally gets the due credit. Life may get good or it may not, the way you deal with in your twenties is important as this is where you decide what to become. And that goes for the rest of your lives.
You know what’s the way of getting through life? When all else fails, just wing it. Always wing it.
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